It appears that there is always a push. From behind. Jostled in line, or in a crowd, or just that invisible hand that keeps pushing–“you should be doing something…anything…just get doing it.” Instead I sit and ponder. I’m tired. Sandwiched between the completely elderly and the completely young adult, here I am, in the aging process, and trying to figure it out. The body is growing weary, I look at self-help, my partner says “get out and do something” and my body says “well, maybe, but I just retired and I’m tired.”
Breaking out of the chains that drag me down, I do things. Then a few months later, I get draggy again for one reason or another, mostly the reason being that something else goes wrong with the body. “What? Again?” One more thing.
All of the advisors say, “get out and do more.” But I don’t want to. Not right now. I want to lounge and be happy in my loungers. Okay. Maybe a little bit I can do.
Mostly it’s fun to help a friend out. I helped my girlfriend consolidate, we have done a lot of trading: she buys cookies, we drink coffee. She has a garage sale, I sort for her. I see what I like, she wants to give it to me. So I give back to her, “Look what I found and I think you should have it!” Or something like that. We laugh. Laughter is a fresh breeze.
I was reading last year. I absorbed several John Irving books (my favorite is still A Prayer for Owen Meany). Then I grew tired, subjects became depressed and complicated. Owen was such a breath of fresh air. A Widow for One Year was very uplifting, though complicated, and is my second favorite.
Then I started watching YouTube regarding old rock and roll. I have had a good time with that. Then I’d see them as they are today. They are old too. How did that ever happen?
Young children are helpful, I have found. I take care of grandchildren quite a bit. Not just an overnight usually, but for several days at a time. It’s very tiring, I am a person with the compulsion that I need to entertain these young beings. So, my partner and I do everything with goals in mind. Like taking them up mountains (I have a fear of heights) to see the view, antiquing (my 6 year old grandson’s “favorite” thing to do), and the bedtime stories that I really needed to wrack my brain over as he would gleefully say: “It’s story time!” Then we would go home and I found myself thinking, “oh, this is what there is” and greet my cats, and drop everything! Lots of grandchildren, and all ages. Plays to attend, discussions about life and how they are. Babies that coo, and learn how to sit up, right in front of you! The joys of being young. Then you go home and get back to routine and feel a little bit shell-shocked because you will miss more.
This exercise this morning in writing is because I am feeling lost and a little bit terrified of life. I sit here and I have worried about the holidays (typical for me, this happens every year). I think that this is the main reason why I am sitting here, trying to sort myself out, and my readers get to be the guinea pigs. I am afraid of winter. I had to go out yesterday and slid on a country road so much I ended up turning around and having to seek a different route. Am I old, or just “chicken?”
I suppose the moral of the story needs to be “do what you feel comfortable with, expand a little bit, but don’t be afraid to say “STOP!”
Maybe…
…to be continued…
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